For some reason I thought that knowing someone for going on 9 years and navigating a relationship through breakups, the Peace Corps, and life in New York City would make this planning business be a piece of cake. Wrong.
Our conversations go like this:
Me: Hey! Look at this gingham-patterned padded invitation! It's so cute and country.
FP (uh, foreign prince, of course): uh, okay
Me: What! You don't like it. I can't believe you're forcing me to get married in such a lame way.
FP: uh, what?
Me: It's okay. I still want to marry you.
FP: uh, I'm glad?
So we have different tastes. Sort of. Actually I've realized that the issue is not that we disagree, but that I have this unrealistic notion that we need to always be in sync because if we disagree, it means that our wedding will be worse for it. And I'll be honest, when I say in sync, I mean doing it my way. An equal partnership is actually what I am seeking and requires work, so here is my mantra, which I will be repeating many times throughout this whole process: let it go.
However, any tips on actually keeping it real with your hubby-to-be would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
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